Women of Purpose: Refresh and Refuel: Personality Puzzle

As women we define ourselves by our relationships – wife, mother, grandmother, sister and friend. However, relationships can be difficult at times because people are different. In fact, we are unique – one of a kind, originals by the design of our DNA. Then factor in differences in gender,values, world views and other life influences and it gets a little crazy.

The Bible tells us in Romans 12: 18 “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” If living at peace depends on me then I need some tools for knowing how to get along. Knowing the personalities and understanding what motivates them can help us to get along better. We will know how to adjust our expectations so we aren’t as frustrated.

For example: The Perfect, Proper Melancholy wouldn’t think of being late to anything; she’s usually early. She expects everyone to respect her need for promptness and starting on time. However, the Playful, Social Sanguine is seldom on time because she is socializing or has just lost track of time in her busyness. In the Sanguines attempt to get along better she can work at being more aware of time and being on time. On the other hand, the Melancholy can adjust her time expectations so she won’t be so frustrated.

My husband is part Perfect Melancholy who needs his space and some alone time to unwind and re-energize. Being the Social Sanguine that I am, I expected his undivided attention when he arrived home. I sometimes felt neglected early in our marriage when he went off alone after coming home from work.. Once we learned about one another’s needs we gladly compromised so that both our needs were met. Getting along is not that difficult when you understand that the differences are not intentional but wired into our design.

At the Personality Puzzle workshop during the Refresh and Refuel sessions you’ll have a chance to learn how to recognize the different personalities so you can put together the pieces of the relationship picture.

The Refresh and Refuel sessions are on Friday morning from 9:00 – 11:00 am at the Hershey Lodge. They are a part of the Women of Purpose Conference “Flawless” on November 12 and 13. Check out the website at www.penndelwomenofpurpose.org.