With Valentines day just a few days away there’s lots of emphasis on love and the heart. Usually the emphasis is on your heart throb boyfriend or husband and how he will show his love. I heard one lady was thrilled to receive a specific iron that she really wanted. That would definitely not be something that said “I love you sooooooo much” for me. Yet, I’ve been disappointed in the dinners out with steak too rare or tough, too long of a wait, restaurant freezing and a whole list of other date dampening experiences.
Recently, I came home late from work and my loving husband had bought lean pork chops for me to make for dinner. I was bone tired on a Friday night and my body was screaming, “take me out, pleeeease.” Instead, I gathered my resources and stood cooking for an hour. We had one of the best meals I’ve eaten in a long time and a great date night. We hadn’t planned every detail or spent a lot of money but it rivaled many of our Valentine meals out.
Love can be spontaneous, unexpected moments of happiness and connecting with our husbands. Some of my best planned have been my most disappointing times. The over expectation of Valentines Day can set us up for disappointment. Love really is more of a choice than a feeling. Once the euphoria of hormones has settled in the dust of courtship, what remains are moment by moment choices to love and be loved.
My husband had chosen to love by grocery shopping and I had chosen to love by cooking. Love is a joint effort in marriage. I’m not sure if we will top that date night but I know he makes choices to love every day; not just Valentines day.
I hope your Valentines day celebration will be a good one but even more I hope you choose to love all year long in big and small ways, unexpected and spontaneous ways that say, “I love you soooooo much!”
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